Guest Post: Perfectly Flawed.
A Perfect Wife
There have been times, in moments of frustration, that I have begrudged my wife’s perfection. During moments of self-loathing, I see her as the one who never does wrong, even when she messes up. Frankly, she’s irritating.
However, according to my wife, she is not perfect, but flawed in every way possible. She refuses to think of herself as perfect, and resents it when I think she is. What she may not realize is that even though she may have flaws, her flaws are perfectly designed. She is perfectly flawed.
A Perfect Proverb
Proverbs 31:10 says that the value of a virtuous woman is “far above rubies.” What most people do not know is that the most valuable gem is the ruby, far exceeding the value of diamonds as the size of stone increases. A 3 carat ruby, for instance, could be 10 times more valuable than a 3 carat diamond. Larger rubies are significantly more rare than large diamonds. Is it any wonder the verse asks, “Who can find a virtuous woman?” Virtue is equally rare.
But when one looks at a ruby, it may be hard to determine whether or not it is genuine or synthetic. Outward beauty is not everything. Natural rubies contain threads of a mineral called rutile. Also called “silk,” the rutile is something that cannot be put into man-made rubies. As a matter of fact, if rubies are found upon inspection to be perfectly clear, such as a clear diamond, odds are they are either synthetic, or have been modified.
Amazingly, unless they have been chemically or heat treated to increase their clarity, some rubies have the ability, because of the rutile, to reflect light in a way diamonds cannot. Some rubies have the ability to show a 3-point or 6-point asterism, or star-like reflection. This effect is best seen when reflecting a single light source. Again, this is because of the “flaws” within.
A Perfect Analogy
It doesn’t take much of a gemologist, rocket scientist, or plastic surgeon to figure out why God compared a virtuous woman to a ruby. She is valuable beyond comparison. Even though she is flawed, her value is not decreased. She may not be perfect, but when submitted to the glorious light of Jesus, she can beautifully reflect the majesty of the Bright and Morning Star.
Women all over the world battle with self-worth. They are constantly under pressure to conform to man-made standards of beauty. From Hollywood, to New York; from the rich doctor, to the no-good boyfriend; too many women derive their sense of value from men – men who have no clue what true beauty is. Oh, if women could only see that God never intended for them to be “perfect,” just perfectly flawed.
“Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30 KJV
Dear sister, your value is not based on your ability to do everything right. Your beauty is not determined by cultural standards or expectations of men. Your worth is based on the fact that Jesus made you for His glory, and you are most beautiful when you reflect Him.
But my wife still irritates me. Even with her flaws she’s still perfect. I can’t win…or maybe I did.