Question of the day: turning the cheek.

We’ve all been hurt by people before. And if you haven’t yet, then brace yourself because it’s coming. Nick e-mailed me this question a couple weeks ago. I’m curious to know what answers you all have.

If we’re suppose to go to people who ‘wrong’ us and tell them about it, how does that reconcile with Matthew 5:39 “But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.”

Is there a time to overlook what someone does to you and just brush it off, or is it always your job to say something?

Ideas? Thoughts? Other Scripture verses?

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Posted on February 14, 2011, in Question of the Day and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.

  1. I believe the idea is to offer him to hit you a second time if that’s what he wants to do, not “turn and walk away.”

    The next two verses say that if someone sues you for your coat, then go ahead and give him your cloak. And if someone makes you walk a mile, go ahead and walk a second. So if someone slaps/punches/smacks you once, let them hit you a second time.

    The preceding verse has to do with their idea of “getting even.” Jesus is teaching us that life isn’t about getting even; instead, live go out of your way to make sure no one can claim anything about you. Don’t let them claim that you need to be hit upside the head, don’t let them claim that you owe them something, and don’t let them claim that you didn’t go as far as you should have 🙂

  2. I’ve always presumed – rightly or wrongly – that the passage about talking with others in order to work out problems refers to fellow Christians, friends, and likely to family members. And that “turn the other cheek” refers to enemies, those who persecute us, or perhaps anyone who gets mad enough at us to swat us (which might occasionally include the first group).

    1 Corinthians chapter 5 is not an exact parallel – maybe not even very close – but it does talk about members of the church confronting others within the church to work out serious problems. (And has some other rather unexpected and interesting things to say about who we should and shouldn’t associate with.)

  3. Hi,
    I followed over from edens site, and was intrigued by your question, and my answer was too long, so it became my post. I like your writing and look worward to reading you in the future. God Bless
    Jim Travis

  4. great question and my 1st thought is Paul when ship wrecked and the snake came out of the fire and bit him, he did not have a pow wow he simple shook it off and went on with life. The others around Paul thought him to be a god because he did not fall down and die. Maybe if we would just move on with life others would see more of God in us instead of trying to have our way.
    A professor of in college said “When emotional are aroused intellect stops working”, if we approach people every time we are offended someone is going to get emotional. I believe I read some where, oh, yes it was the Bible, that you can not offend the righteous. If you to have your approval by others than you will be a sad person always having problems.

  5. When people are ready to ask you about their behavior that is when honesty is helpful, but if they do something that hurts you, then you should also let them know they hurt you. I just had a younger friend text me last night asking me what I thought, since another of his friends brought up the fact he can be arrogant and does not consider others feelings, he just acts at times. I told him the truth, because he had done it to me. When I was twenty I might not have done it. We learn from self examination, but often some are oblivious to what they have done. Or if they do…they just do not freakin care, and can live with themselves.

    Enjoyed this, and emotion does rule a woman more than a man…sad but true, I am a great example LOL Oh saw you on Idlylls poetry site!

  6. Suck it up and forget it is a real lousy piece of pastoral advice, that actually causes much destruction. It depends on the situation and the timing as to who, if and when you may approach that person. Sometimes; particularly in abusive circumstances its best to run… not walk …run away.

    I have seen the results of when people forgive too quickly without them first taking the time to fully appreciate what has happened and the ramifications of this. Once the fullness of this has happened; then forgiveness can start take place…

    Often we tell people to forgive because in reality we don’t want to hear their cry of pain…and would rather they shut up …

    Btw… great blog. I will keep reading on.

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